I don’t have any willpower.
Or so someone said to me recently.
Like it’s a thing that you are lucky enough to be born with. Something that can be big or small, present or not. In your DNA.
Newsflash. It’s not your willpower. It’s you.
When we think that is it our willpower that is driving us, we surrender control. We other it.
It’s not me don’t you know. It’s my willpower. It is a cognitive convenience.
Instead of willpower, think instead about choice.
If you eat the chocolate, it isn’t because you have no willpower, some malign force conspiring against you.
It is because you choose to eat it.
Only by owning our choices and recognising that they are ours and that we do have control over them, can we truly take responsibility.
It starts with you.