A twitter friend of mine wrote a blog post this week, reflecting on weightlifting. In it, she talked of the comments of others…. including those who told her to be careful ‘not to get too big and bulky’.
I get this.
When I first got serious about my fitness, it seemed to encourage a whole range of people, many of whom were very far from experts on the subject, to have a bucket full of opinions they felt they needed to share. Whether I wanted them or not.
Don’t get too bulky was one of them.
You are taking it too far.
You are getting too skinny.
When are you going to stop?
It can’t be good for you to exercise this much.
It’s not doing your face any favours. (A particular favourite).
When it comes to fitness or weight-loss, other people will often have something to say. Sometimes this is more about them than it is you. Sometimes it is because your change or dedication is generating a fear reaction, making them reflect upon themselves in a way that they don’t want to. You are challenging the status quo. Mostly people think they are in some way being helpful. They may have positive intent…. or they may not.
When someone comes from a place of expertise, listen.
When someone is expressing concern for your health, reflect and check. Consider if there is any truth in their words.
When someone is simply enjoying the sound of their own voice, carry on regardless. This is about you, not them.
As you were.